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I read a report today citing how British backpackers when they travelled to Australia, often had triple the number of sexual partners they would have at home.

The really sad thing is, even for those who are already married or have a partner at home, 39.7% of them continued to have multiple sexual partners in Down Under!

Rox and I just had a discussion 2 nights ago. We discussed openly about adulterous issues and if it happens to either of us, would we be able to take it. I appreciate it that she expressed her emotions to me. We always pride in ourselves that our intimacy is first built on our emotional connection. There’s absolutely nothing to hide between the 2 of us. Yes, I even share with her and ask for her forgiveness when my eyes wandered and strayed. I do that to keep our intimacy alive, so that she will always be my deepest soul mate. In such a relationship, sex isn’t precedence, but is the icing on the cake, whose foundation is built on emotional intimacy, with pillars of commitment, faithfulness and trust. Exchange that for sex with a dozen multiple partners? I think what I have is a dozen times more fulfilling. Flippant sex simply steals away your ability to be truthful with your partner. If you can’t be truthful with him/her, you hide! Behind a wall! You wear a mask! There’s no real intimacy and trust in such a relationship…

Another shocking statistics is that out of those who arrived in Australia and are single, 40.9% reported inconsistent condom use and 24% had unprotected sex with multiple partners!

The most common initial response of some here could be the message of contraception is missing. Perhaps the Brits have not been educated about contraception?

Unlikely.

Britain is one country that splashed out millions to salvage their failing marriages and families falling apart. Their sex education has been carried out for many years and this social issue has captured nation wide attention. Just think about Alfie Patten and Chantelle, the 13-year old father and 14-year old mother who shocked the world by becoming parents, of course, until Alfie’s name is cleared that he wasn’t the father, much to his disappointment that Chantelle has a string of teen boys that she has slept with. It happened in Britain. Britain, much closely followed by USA has been voted the worst place to bring up your kids, and increasingly, their politicians are acknowledging that their problems can be mainly attributed to the failing of marriages and falling apart of families in their country.

So are the Brits not using the condoms because of a lack of education? Absolutely not.

In fact, the common trend found around the world is that knowledge of contraception does not equate to the use of it. And, who ever say condoms are 95% safe, other than the condom manufacturers, and people who are absolutely ill-informed!

And I wonder what results will be yielded if they survey these holidaying Brits – do you currently have an STD or have you ever been diagonsed with one?

I believe if they are truthful, you gonna get some shocking results! After all, STDs are reaching epidemic proportions in Britain and with US having estimated 40-50% of population down with an STD, Britain can’t be too far behind.

Who knows, perhaps the reason why they are not using the condom is that they already know they are infected! The danger is not on these flippant Brits, but on the unsuspecting Australians!

I absolutely feel sorry for those faithful spouses, who will get infected eventually because of a whole nation of people playing in infected playgrounds.

I hope Singapore will never get mentioned in such a way as above. I am proud that many of our youths still stand by their parents’ ideals, but yet, the trend is becoming more and more worrying. We could be at this critical, make or break juncture. We need something radical in Singapore so that our youths can stand up with ideals that shake the world. The world will look to us when they see our difference. Singapore can be leaders of influence to the world’s youths, if we can survive this global tipping point, with radical messages that urge transformation. Otherwise, we will slip like any other of our developed counterparts.

Are there any ears listening?