Wonderfully Made – Build Successful Marriages

Mr Creative is a new friend we made. He looks like a Hong Kong celebrity with soulful blue contacts, ‘lacking of sleep’ eyes, a Cantonese Chinese accent, and humble, yet humorous way of making a connection with you.

What is not surprising about him is that he faces woes and disillusionment about marriage and relationship. As we talked to him, it becomes increasingly clear that this charming and genuine guy, has seen so much disappointments in relationships that he doesn’t believe in it anymore.

‘I need an understanding girl,’ He said. ‘Someone who will understand if due to my work and situation, I am late for my appointment or that I have to postpone my appointment with her. If she truly understands my predicament, she would be fine to have her own meal first, and wait for me to be free. My last girlfriend left me because she felt I couldn’t spend that time with her. She was the one I loved most, and if she would be willing to return to me today, I can afford all the overseas trips that she wanted so much from me, only that I couldn’t afford it then.’

Disappointments. Disillusionment. Mr Creative, genuine at heart for this one girl, has given up on marriage, or that he will ever find a true girl that understands him. The present life that he engages in, the hangouts that he goes to, the girls whom he mixes with, perpetuates the cycle that he may never find a good girl who can understand him.

Despite our subtle hints, inside, we really wish to shout to him,

“hey friend, it’s not because you aren’t good enough, or that you can never find a good girl, it’s just that you need to get your life in order, make yourself a whole person first, then look for another who is whole, who is mature, then you have a real real chance of a happy relationship, and a lifetime of marital bliss.”

Mr Creative could be you or me. It could be someone we made up. But hey friends, you got the hint?